Destiny* was pregnant and afraid to tell her family. How would they react? Would they kick her out of the house? Would they be disappointed in her or angry?
Being unexpectedly pregnant and being afraid or anxious about telling parents or other family members is very common. Destiny is like many women we see in our clinic.
Sometimes women, like Destiny, feel like they might have to have an abortion. Since they’re not sure they can tell their parents or others that they’re pregnant, they feel like they don’t have options. But often they don’t really want to do that.
In Destiny’s case, we helped her sort through the difficulty of telling her parents. “First Care Clinic helped me figure out ways to talk to my family,” she said.
If you are pregnant, or think you might be, and are afraid to tell your parents or others in your family, read on.
How do I tell my parents I’m pregnant?
This is a common question. You may be nervous about how your parents would react to the news of your pregnancy.
Everyone’s parents are different. Parents may be disappointed at first and may be shocked. Like with any big news, they may say or do things that they later recognize they don’t mean. Keep in mind that they had hopes for your future that right away might seem far off.
But parents often become more supportive than you’d expect. Give them some time to process this new information. The love parents have for their children is very deep. Your parents could become your biggest ally.
This is big news. Plan to have a conversation when you and your parent(s) have time to talk and aren’t already upset or stressed about something. And probably not too late at night either so they’re not feeling tired.
If you’re pregnant in Madison, Wisconsin or one of the surrounding communities and you’d like help in figuring out how to talk with your parents, we can help. Call or text us and we’ll set an appointment for you to meet with a nurse or patient advocate.
You don’t have to walk through an unintended pregnancy alone. Talk with someone you trust. Or contact us and we can help. That’s what we’re here for.
*Name changed to protect privacy.