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Figuring Out What’s Best for You

Chloe* found First Care Clinic, saw that it had great reviews, and tells of her experience with welcoming and helpful staff. She talks about walking through best and worst case scenario and sorting out her options.

If you think you might be pregnant and are looking for someone to talk to — someone who won’t judge you but will help you process your thoughts and feelings — listen to Chloe’s story and come see us.

If you think you might be pregnant in the Madison, Wisconsin area, text or call us at 608-259-1605 to make an appointment – all of our services are free of charge.

*Name changed to protect privacy.

5 Things to Consider When Making a Pregnancy Decision

If you think you might be pregnant and you weren’t planning on it, your mind may be swirling with all kinds of thoughts.

“I can’t be pregnant. Not now.” “I was on birth control. How is this possible?” “How can I care for another child?” “What about finishing school?” “How will I tell my parents?” “I can’t afford a child right now.”

Woman looking at pregnancy test
Pregnant and not sure what to do? Take time to consider these 5 things before making a decision about your pregnancy.
An unintended pregnancy can present many challenges. But you will want to take time to consider a number of things before making a decision about your pregnancy.
  1. Are you pregnant?
    • Are your symptoms or a home pregnancy test indicating that you are pregnant?
    • Before making any decision, get your pregnancy confirmed by a medical professional. An ultrasound can tell if the baby has a heartbeat and how far along you are.
  2. Consider your options. If you are pregnant, you have three options.
    • Abortion: Abortion is often seen as an option of necessity. It is not a choice that most women want to make but they feel that they don’t have other options. Learn more.
    • Adoption: Adoption can be a very difficult choice to make. However, making an adoption plan can be a good option for women who are not ready to parent and are also not comfortable choosing abortion. Find out more about adoption.
    • Parenting: Some women who initially consider abortion decide that they can parent their child after considering their feelings, values and fears as well as resources and support that are available. Find out how we can help.
  3. Consider your thoughts, values and resources.
    • It can be helpful in sorting out your thoughts to make a list of your options and the benefits and risks of each option.
    • Think about what you value. Looking at your list, rate how important each benefit and risk is to you.
    • Think about and write down any resources and support you know about that may support each of your options. How might the important people in your life support you in your choice? What community resources are available to you?
      • If you feel you do not have enough support, discuss your options with a trusted person. Our nurses and patient advocates can help you with this. Text or call us.
      • Is anyone in your life pressuring you to make a certain decision? It will be best for you – and for the long term health of your relationships – if you can both respectfully communicate your thoughts and feelings.
    • You will want to consider whether you want not make this decision alone or share the decision.
      • Regardless of who you involve in the decision, it will be best if you can make it freely – without feeling pressured to make a certain choice.
      • We can offer a listening ear to the person or people you are involving in your decision.
      • The father of your baby may find it helpful to meet with our Fatherhood Specialist or a male client advocate. Text or call us to find out more.
    • If you feel pressure from others to make a specific choice, find someone to help you and the others involved. Our nurses and patient advocates are available to meet with you. We can help you navigate the challenges you are facing. Text or call us.
  1. Learn all you can about each of your options.
    • Abortion: Do you know what abortion procedures are available to you? Do you understand the potential risks of abortion? You have the right to give fully informed consent and to assess risks and side effects.
    • Parenting: Do you know what risks are associated with continuing the pregnancy? What community resources are available for pregnant moms and moms with infants and other children? What are the responsibilities of the father of the baby?
    • Adoption: Do you understand the options available with making an adoption plan? There are now many options for adoption. An adoption can be open or closed. You may get together with your child regularly and send birthday cards and gifts or choose to live life separately. Find out more.
  2. Know your rights: In the state of Wisconsin, you have the right to make this decision. No one else, including your parents or the father of the baby, can legally force you to have an abortion. The decision you make must be voluntary and non-coerced. If you are feeling pressured to get an abortion you don’t want, get help. Contact us or call the police.

As you attempt to cope with the complex emotions associated with an unintended pregnancy, it can become more difficult to think clearly about your options. Come in and talk about how you are feeling. We can help to answer some of the questions that are going around in your head. Text or call us today.

I Can’t Be Pregnant

“I can’t be pregnant. Not right now.”

“I have plans. And I can’t afford a baby.”

Perhaps you or someone you know is having thoughts like these. You may wonder what to do next.

Should I have an abortion? Parent? Or maybe consider making an adoption plan? All of these sound like hard choices. Where do I go from here?

The nurses and patient advocates at First Care Clinic are here to help you sort through your options and create a plan to move forward. Come see us.

To find out more or to make an appointment, call or text us at 608-259-1605.

Chloe’s “Best Decision She Ever Made”

Chloe* had been feeling really sick for about six weeks – so sick she spent most of her time on the couch. A medical appointment found nothing wrong and Chloe soon began to feel better.

Chloe and her best friend, Allison*, decided to vacation in the Madison area. While on the drive, Allison asked Chloe if she could be pregnant. “Absolutely not,” was Chloe’s reply. But she started to wonder. A pregnancy test indicated that Chloe was indeed pregnant.

“I was absolutely freaking out,” Chloe remembered. “I needed answers now and didn’t want to wait until we got back home. I was in total disbelief and just wanted to find out.”

Chloe searched online and found a clinic in Madison, Care Net’s First Care Clinic. “It said it was free. That was hard to believe, but I made an appointment and went in the next day.”

Chloe and her best decision
“It was so valuable to talk with your clinic staff. They took a neutral position on my options and spent so much time with me.”

Chloe expected something “run down and shady—like something you’d see on a TV show.” But when she arrived at First Care Clinic she found something entirely different. “It was so, so nice. The facility was amazing and the people were extremely helpful. I was sitting there thinking, ‘They’re going to bill me for something.’ I was so nervous. It helped that they let Allison stay with me the whole time.”

First Care Clinic staff took the time to listen and heard Chloe’s worries. “One of my biggest concerns was talking to my parents. I’m not married. My parents are kind of old school and I didn’t know how to tell them I was pregnant. The clinic staff helped me talk through why I thought they’d be upset and how I could deal with different reactions and concerns.”

Clinic staff also gave Chloe the tools she needed to make decisions about her pregnancy. “I filled out a decision guide that helped me break down all my options and weigh the pros and cons of each one.

“If I chose to have an abortion, I wasn’t sure I’d be able to live with myself afterwards. But I also wasn’t prepared to be a mom and had so many worries. I wasn’t sure what to do.”

Having to make such a critical decision on her own was terrifying. But Chloe soon realized there was someone on her side. “It was so valuable to talk with your clinic staff. They took a neutral position on my options and spent so much time with me.”

“They did a pregnancy test and then an ultrasound. I was in awe. I could see that he already had arms and legs and was moving around. It was pretty crazy.”

Chloe chose to carry her baby to term. Her son, Ethan Lucas*, was born earlier this year and is “doing great.”

“Since coming to First Care Clinic, I have definitely changed. I feel that I was a mature person before, but this experience helped me grow up even more. Becoming a mom and having my son has given my life a whole new meaning.”

Chloe thanked those who make First Care Clinic possible. “First Care Clinic helped me to make the best decision I ever made.”

* Names changed to protect privacy.

Think You Might Be Pregnant?

Being pregnant can be an exciting, scary or overwhelming time – especially if you think you might be pregnant and weren’t intending to become pregnant right now. Even if you feel like your world is a bit out of control, there are people who can help you figure out whether or not you’re pregnant and help you sort through your options.

The most common sign of being pregnant is missing your period. However, this sign can be misleading if your periods are irregular.

You could also experience nausea, with or without vomiting. This is often called morning sickness, but can occur anytime day or night.

Your breasts may also feel sensitive and sore because of early pregnancy hormonal changes.

You may need to use the bathroom more often and feel unusually tired or moody.

You could also experience bloating, light spotting or cramping, constipation, food aversions and even nasal congestion.

You could have many of these signs and not be pregnant. Many of these signs could also be symptoms of being sick or under stress or could mean your period is about to start. And you can be pregnant without experiencing many of these signs of pregnancy.

If you have had a missed period or think you may be pregnant the only way to know for sure is to have a pregnancy test. Call or text now to make an appointment at First Care Clinic.

Even if you’ve already taken a home pregnancy test, you should contact your health care provider or our clinic to have your pregnancy confirmed so you can begin getting the care you need.

 Wondering what to do next?

If you think you might be pregnant, we can help you find out for sure. Our clinic provides everything free of charge and confidentially – pregnancy testing, consultation on your pregnancy options, ultrasound as indicated and STD testing and treatment for women.

You will have the results of your pregnancy test during your appointment.

If you are pregnant, you have three options:

  • Parenting – Continuing the pregnancy and raising your child
  • Adoption – Continuing the pregnancy and letting someone else parent the child
  • Abortion – Ending the pregnancy now by having an abortion

We can help you explore these options.

We will listen to you as you talk about your feelings, values and fears. We can help you think through who your support people are and talk about resources that are available to you. And we’ll answer questions you might have.

Call or text us today to get started.

Wondering how to tell your parents?

This is a common question. You may be nervous about how your parents would react to the news of your pregnancy.

Everyone’s parents are different. However, parents may initially be disappointed but often become more supportive than you may expect. Your parents could become your biggest ally.

This is big news. Plan to have a conversation when you and your parent(s) have time to talk and aren’t already upset or really stressed about something. And probably not too late at night either so they’re not really tired.

If you’d like help in talking through how to talk with your parents, we can help. Call or text us and we’ll set an appointment for you to meet with a nurse or patient advocate.

You don’t have to walk through an unintended pregnancy alone. Talk with someone you trust or contact us and we can help. That’s what we’re here for.

Welcome

Welcome to First Care Clinic, one of the most trusted women’s health clinics in Madison, WI for over 30 years!

Our medical professional provide compassionate medical care, free of charge and confidentially. If you are experiencing signs of pregnancy, pregnancy symptoms or thinking about abortion, call us.

We are available to discuss your options, listen to your concerns and answer your questions.

We also offer STI/STD testing and treatment for women, diagnostic ultrasound and pregnancy and parenting education.

To make an appointment, call or text us at 608-259-1605.

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