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5 Tips for Developing a Healthy Relationship

Developing a healthy relationship, whether you just started dating or have been together for years, is important. Healthy relationships are full of trust, accountability, safety, cooperation, support, and honesty. In addition to all those traits, a healthy relationship needs to have respect at its core. Check out some tips on how to develop a healthy relationship and learn ways to tell if respect is at the core of your relationship.

Learn Each Other’s Love Language

There are five love language categories that you and your partner can fall into: Words of Affirmation (saying I love you), Quality Time (going on a walk together), Receiving Gifts (giving your partner the new book they wanted), Acts of Service (doing the dishes), and Physical Touch (giving them hugs when they get home). Everyone has a top love language, with the rest sprinkled in at lower levels of importance. Knowing what your partner’s love language is and knowing what you own is can help with communication and ensure that you both feel loved and appreciated in your relationship.

Set Boundaries

Every relationship needs boundaries! Boundaries can be as little as having a set hour every day to yourself or as big as no kissing in public. These boundaries allow you to be true to your values and set realistic expectations for each other. Setting boundaries also helps with the frustration that can come from not knowing what the other person wants and doesn’t want. When you are upfront with setting boundaries, you create a feeling of mutual respect.

We know that discussing boundaries with your partner can be difficult, but your relationship will benefit from having the conversation. Just make sure you have it when you both are calm and ready to talk!

Have Hobbies and Friends Outside of Your Relationship

Being in the same friend group as your significant other can be fun because you can share so many experiences within the same group of people. However, having separate friends and

hobbies allows you to do things apart occasionally. That might seem a little strange, especially if you are used to spending all your time together! Hanging out with different friends or participating in different hobbies from each other allows each of you to grow, find out what your passions are, and have stories to tell when you finally do hang out. Plus, growing as individuals is just as important as growing in your relationship.

Listen, Listen, Listen

Listening is an important part of every relationship – and not just when you two are in a disagreement. Listening when your partner has a bad day or when they have an exciting story to tell is important, too. Actively listening without interrupting or scrolling through your phone shows your partner that you are genuinely interested in what they have to say and it develops an additional level of trust. And remember, just as you need to listen to your partner, they need to listen to you, too! You both need to feel heard and acknowledged in your relationship.

Be a Team

Think of your relationship like a team! In a team, each member pulls in equal effort. They fight for what’s best for all members of the team and they work together for a common goal.

If you and your partner approach your relationship in a team mindset, it’ll be easier to solve problems, create trust and have each other’s back, no matter what. There will always be conflict in a relationship. There will always be times where someone wants something that the other person does not. There will be days where you don’t see eye-to-eye with your partner. The same thing happens in a team! When you realize that you’re in this together and that you are pulling equal weight in the relationship, problems become easier to solve and you’ll approach your relationship with more maturity and understanding.

Developing a healthy relationship can be hard work, but it’s rewarding for both people in the relationship. As we mentioned above, respect is at the core of a healthy relationship and these five tips will help develop you and your partner’s respect for each other.

First Care Clinic serves couples facing unplanned pregnancies every day. Even though it can be an uncertain time for these men and women, we help and support them through their journey. Contact us today to learn more about what we do!

What Are the Early Signs of Pregnancy?

Have you recently had unprotected sex, or did you experience some sort of birth control mishap? Perhaps you are now concerned about the potentially life-changing outcome of a pregnancy. If you are in this position, it is natural to wonder if you are experiencing early signs of pregnancy.

The best way to find out for sure is to take a pregnancy test. After a positive pregnancy test, you should have an ultrasound to confirm the pregnancy. But if you want to know about the early signs of pregnancy before taking a test, here are some symptoms you may experience

 

Early Signs of Pregnancy

 

A Missed Period

The most obvious early sign of pregnancy is a missed period. You might think that you are familiar with your cycles and will know immediately when your period is late. Even if you are correct, a late period is not necessarily a guarantee that you are pregnant. Stress, travel, or illness could be the true reason that your period is late. With that said, a missed period might mean that you are pregnant, so you should treat yourself as though you are until you find out for sure.

 

Spotting and Cramping

After conception, you might experience what is called implantation bleeding or spotting. This will take place sometime between six and 12 days after the egg is fertilized.

The cramps you might experience may resemble menstrual cramps, which is why some women mistake them for the start of their period. Bleeding and light menstrual cramping are common in early pregnancy.  These may occur together or separately and occur in the first 15-25% of all pregnancies. Just be aware that they might be an early sign of pregnancy.

 

Nausea and Vomiting

Also known as morning sickness, you might experience nausea and vomiting early in your pregnancy. Though it is a well-known symptom, not every woman deals with it, so you might be one of the lucky ones who is spared. Fortunately, if you do encounter morning sickness, the symptoms typically subside by the 14th week of your pregnancy.

 

Fatigue

You might begin to feel excessively tired early in your pregnancy. You might even experience this as early as one week after conception. In most cases, women feel most tired in the first trimester. By the end of the second trimester, the fatigue has usually become less severe. If you are feeling extra tired and are experiencing some of these additional symptoms, it may be time to take a pregnancy test.

 

Headache and Back Pain

You might experience frequent headaches early in your pregnancy due to hormone changes. Oftentimes women also deal with back pain and general aches. If you experience either of these symptoms at a rate more common than usual, it could be a sign that you are pregnant. It helps to be mindful of these sorts of changes to your body.

 

Breast Changes

Breast changes are another one of the most common early signs of pregnancy. A week or two after conception, you might notice that your breasts are swollen, sore, tender, or fuller than usual. You might also notice that the areola (the area around the nipple) becomes darker. After a few weeks to adjust to your new hormone levels, your breast pain should decrease, making you more comfortable.

 

Frequent Urination

Beginning around week six or eight of your pregnancy, you might start to urinate more frequently. It is possible that this is caused by a urinary tract infection, but if you’re pregnant, it is likely due to your increased hormone levels. If you are concerned about your frequent urination, talk to a doctor to find out the cause.

 

Mood Swings

Mood swings are most common during the first trimester and are caused by changes to your hormone levels. Mood swings are a natural part of the early phase of your pregnancy, so don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed when you cry more often. If you need support, talk to someone you trust or make an appointment at our center.

 

When do Early Signs of Pregnancy Begin?

Since every woman’s menstrual cycle is different, you will not encounter the same early signs of pregnancy as everyone else. Typically, women start to experience pregnancy symptoms approximately five to eight weeks after conception, so that is when you should expect to see early signs of pregnancy. However, it is possible that you will begin to see the first signs of pregnancy within a week after conception, which is why it’s important to pay attention to your body! 

 

After You Experience Early Signs of Pregnancy

After you have missed your period and start to experience any of the above early signs of pregnancy, you can consider taking a pregnancy test. It is recommended that you wait at least a week after your missed period to take a pregnancy test, and the longer you wait, the more accurate the results will be. If you don’t want to take a home pregnancy test or just want to follow up after taking one, you can take a free pregnancy test at First Care Clinic. We will also provide an

What to do After a Positive Pregnancy Test

Knowing what to do after a positive pregnancy test is difficult. The test result can cause a wide range of emotions. If this pregnancy was not expected, then you will likely feel a great deal of stress. But keep in mind that this is quite common – nearly half of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned. You’re not alone.

Follow these steps on what to do after a positive pregnancy test result.

 

Confirm Your Pregnancy

The first step is to verify the pregnancy. False results are fairly common due to user error or taking the test too early, so it’s important to seek certainty before moving on to the next steps in the process. First Care Clinic offers free and confidential pregnancy tests and ultrasounds that will confirm the pregnancy. The ultrasound is an important follow up to the pregnancy test because it will also detect a fetal heartbeat and determine how far along your pregnancy has progressed.

 

Consider Your Options

For even the savviest women, an unexpected pregnancy presents a daunting challenge. After confirming your pregnancy, now is the time to weigh all of your potential options. If you’re ready to continue with your pregnancy, then we can help you find a prenatal care provider. We also have classes to help you learn more about your pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting.  If you’re not sure, then learn about adoption, which involves placing the child with a loving family to permanently care for him or her, and abortion, which involves taking medication or undergoing a procedure to end your pregnancy. 

This is a decision that needs to be made carefully, so take your time and ensure that you’re accessing all the most accurate information. We can help you work through your decision-making process. 

 

Tell the Father

Along with talking to trusted friends and family members, it’s important to tell the father, even if you two are not together. He is just as much of a part in this pregnancy as you are, and he should be encouraged to participate in the decision-making process. In cases of an abusive relationship or cases involving drugs or alcohol, talk to a counselor first. If at all possible, it’s important to involve the father. He is a key part of this situation as well. You can lean on each other, and while the decision is yours, he can offer valuable input and support to you.

 

Find Resources

You might benefit from additional resources during your unplanned pregnancy. Regardless of which option you choose, there are various resources available. For instance, you can learn about government programs, such as W2, WIC and FoodShare, that provide support if you decide to parent. If you’re considering an adoption plan, you can speak with adoption agencies about the best plan for you. As you weigh all your options and ponder your many questions, just remember that there are resources available to help you find answers. You are not alone on this journey.

 

Don’t Panic

Remaining calm amidst these challenges times easier said than done, but keep in mind that you have time to consider your options. You can’t change the past, but you can seize control of your future. Make a decision that you can ultimately live with long term. And most importantly, remember that you are not alone.

 

Dealing with a positive pregnancy test is challenging. The most important thing to remember is that you don’t have to do it alone. If you’re looking for answers or just someone to talk to, reach out to us. We’re here for you.